I have to say i agree the guy should have just moved stands. Seems like absolute madness to stop going to the games just because of a drummer. Having said that, the drummer sounds like an absolute tool.
Regarding getting a new drum, is there a chance the trust could help out with this, but then give it to someone a bit more responsible and importantly with some sense of rhythm? Don't know if this is their area or not, but we do need a proper drum if we are going to have one, and that lad has no rhythm what so ever, just gets faster and faster until the chant fizzles out because nobody can physically clap fast enough to keep up and the words can't be made out.